The first thing you need to know about self defense is how to avoid situations where you’ll need it.

To begin with try to avoid visiting the mall after dark. With the days getting shorter, that’s difficult, but it is rule number one. Women especially should shop during daytime, because you can’t be aware of everything around you during your walk to the car in the dark. Beware of anyone who appears to be following you. If you think you’re being followed, follow your instincts. Don’t panic; you need your wits about you. If you aren’t far from the exit, turn around and go back in. Ask security to escort you or call 911. Better to sound the alarm and be safe than to convince yourself it’s nothing and end up a victim.

Look out for men sitting in parked cars especially if parked beside or close to you. They’re suspect enough that again, you should go back and ask security to walk you out or report it to police. These guys could be anything from pervs to killers.

When making purchases make sure nobody is close enough to take a picture of your card. Never give a cashier personal information; they don’t need it.

Phone and email scams are terrible at this time. They may solicit donations or tell you they are from Social Security or your local police department. Never give them any information of any kind. Watch for fake calls from “Microsoft” where the caller says you have a virus and tries to get you to enter anything on your PC. Microsoft, Social Security and the IRS do not make phone calls.

Do not click any unfamiliar links in an email from a new sender. All of these tricks are to mine your electronic purchase information, whether directly or through malware.

Avoid groups milling about in malls or parking lots. Especially older teens.

At home use secure wifi access for online purchases. Never do it on public hotspots.

Shop online only at established businesses; anything you’ve never done business with should be exhaustively researched first.

Use a door camera but password protect it along with a second layer of security. Porch pirates are in season, and you really should have someone at home if you are expecting a delivery. Ask neighbors to watch or even take your delivery inside their house until you get home.

Do not carry large amounts of cash. A purse or wallet will be visible to anyone watching.

Carry a combination of pepper spray and CS (riot gas). Guaranteed to make anyone useless until you get clear.

Don’t carry a gun without a permit and unless you’ve trained and qualified as a marksman– the instant you hesitate or fumble with the safety, your opponents will take it from you and shoot you.

Illegal weapons should be avoided. You’ll be the one getting a ride to Central Booking. But if you must, I’d suggest brass knuckles. One punch to the face should do. Umbrellas and canes do well also. Check YouTube for simple tutorials on self defense with canes.

Dress for the weather. Cold and rain take your attention away from your surroundings.

Take walks with family or friends. Don’t go anywhere alone.

Limit your in-person shopping to the least expensive items on your list; when another person sees you purchasing expensive things, you’re a mark.

Be paranoid but not panicked. It is a festive time of year but crimes can come to anyone, anywhere, anytime.

If you are wise, take care of yourself. Eat right, sleep well, and your alertness can save you.

Remember that this year a lot of people have left jobs over mask mandates; loads of people are desperate. If you see something, say something.

Be careful, okay? Please be careful.