A Few Questions

She said a lot there, but everyone is asking the same things here in the United States.

What I’m getting from this is disturbing because it seems that nobody knows what the U.S. is allowed to do, what our constitution provides for or forbids, what the UCMJ allows or what constitutes criminal actions, and equally important, what international law says about combat actions in international water during peacetime. Especially against civilians.

I’ll let you in on something really messed up: there are no countries that are allowed to do this. It could constitute a war crime, but there is no war, so these horrors are crimes against humanity, and terrorism; Murder and the threat of more. Except, I don’t understand why it’s happening if Trump just pardoned Juan Hernandez, former president of Honduras, who was convicted of trafficking cocaine into the United States by the ton.

How in perdition does that make any sense?

Answer: it doesn’t.

I honestly knew nothing about the 2 September incident in which the so-called “double tap” strike took place until mere days ago.

I’ll tell you my take as a Christian first: I believe the “first strike” to be immoral. Killing is immoral. My renewed faith has no room for arguing this point. Defense against an aggressor in a declared war is one thing; this is nothing similar at all. Jesus never said to go forth and kill and then pretend it never happened. Killing and lying are not just sins, but they go against the conscience most people are inherently equipped with.

So too, Pete Hegseth proved to be a coward, speaking boldly, indeed arrogantly, and then lying to cover himself from any fallout. Which he’s finally getting anyway.

FAKE NEWS

This is something we all have to contend with. It’s a problem because, first of all, some people like to disseminate lies. Secondly, propaganda is effective. Hitler had a dedicated propaganda minister, and the Allied resistance countered Nazi propaganda with outrageously funny and equally effective stunts through the use of radio and printed material. The underground was often connected between occupied countries and those involved risked their lives in their own fight against Nazis.

The Resistance against Nazi Germany was often funny, and one case in particular taught the Kriegsmarine in Norway an unforgettable lesson. Germany had confiscated the entire country’s catch of sardines because canned food lasted longer on U-boat sorties. U-boats were hot, cramped, and they went on long “Wolpack” patrols across the Atlantic to sink Allied escorts and troop ships, but also to stem the unbelievable flow of planes, tanks and a staggering amount of food, medical supplies, uniforms and blankets, a never-ending amount of ships, and while the Germans, including armored cavalry, pilots, and infantry, had been told that the U.S. military was weak and could never outfight Aryans, the Kriegsmarine knew better. Not only could they not stop the shipping, but the Americans became much more efficient at detecting and damaging or sinking their subs. It became necessary for the Nazi armed forces to take drastic measures. Occupied countries had crops and meat confiscated. Troops were resorting to horses and carts for transportation of troops and supplies, and horses were used to pull artillery, some of which were very antiquated pieces from World War One. Combat photography and film footage proves all of this, and perhaps there was a time when they may have prevailed except that Operation Barbarossa had already beaten them. It is the judgement of many scholars that it was inevitable; invading the Soviet Union was a dreadful move. By the time of the flight back to German territory, retreat and surrender was no longer worthy of discussion. Men froze to death lying on their backs, some with an arm bent upward. And the entire war was like that. By the time the U.S. sent its military to engage Germany, it sealed the deal.

The taking of food and even linen for bandages in Nazi-occupied Europe forced the citizens into serious resistance tactics. Men and women alike fought. But in Norway….all of their sardines?

This was too much for Norwegians to take. Fuming, they contacted Allies and ordered a lot of croton oil. They canned the tiny fish with this oil, which is a rather “violent” laxative. In other words, U-boat crews on submarines that had a single toilet were taken out of action and couldn’t return to port fast enough. The interior of the U-boats were wall to wall diarrheic disasters, their men severely dehydrated. There is no mention I could find on the vessel’s turnaround time, but if it took a week, and the crew had to be replaced, then it took the boat out of action and plausibly saved at least some Allied shipping across the Atlantic. The story spread throughout the underground and the Maquis made sure that everyone got the news. The O.S.S. and British agents were probably rolling around on their office floors, stomachs cramped as badly as a German submariner’s, but for a different reason: they were laughing.

When properly coordinated, propaganda is effective. You just can’t overdo it because that’s when the resistance begins.

Today, however, the Trump administration is constantly putting out senseless, uncoordinated and often contradictory fake news, and that alone is funny, yet people are dying. Many more are suffering.

And here’s the thing: sure, this administration is all for cutting out all healthcare even as Trump’s mouth spits lies about healthcare reform. Which, it turns out, would result in a lot of deaths. And this is not World War Two.

But a new Holocaust? Can that happen?

This is all about deporting arbitrary people to other countries, mostly under the assumption that they’re illegal aliens, despite being naturalized and even U.S.-born citizens.

A senator who just loves deportations recently wrote on social media how thankful he is that his parents brought him to the United States (!).

This administration is full of hypocrisy and lies, and it’s so stupid that, if people weren’t suffering and dying, it would be hilarious. One funny thing is a senator introducing a bill which, if passed, would see Melania Trump deported, her dual citizenship cancelled. I tell you, it boggles the mind.

But as I’ve said, people are dying. And the suffering is getting more widespread. Very few things are funny.

I misread, or actually did read, something about a foreign leader being transferred to the Hague and the ICC to face charges of crimes against humanity. It’s likely that I crossed stories, but at first I thought a foreign leader had been detained for the same things as our Navy attacking boats for trafficking drugs.

Actually it was a Libyan official who ran a prison in which he encouraged atrocities including various manner of torture including murder, rape, extreme violence and more. The U.S. and Germany protested, but the ICC overruled them. Knowing nothing further, I can only guess that “illegal aliens” sent to Libya and El Salvador were supposed to undergo such acts and conditions.

Doing so constitutes multiple crimes against humanity under the Trump administration. ICE is allowed to wear masks and vests and be heavily armed and freely roam like Nazi SS and Gestapo men, taking prisoners. ICE agents are feared, but more than anything, they are bitterly hated, and a reckoning is coming.

Even now, as I think about it, I get sick in my body and spirit. Is there really no limit to the evil this administration willingly plans and then commits?

Media like NewsMax and Fox are just as immoral, eagerly egging the administration on and heaping praise on a band of criminals with outrageous lies that defy belief that anyone could be so dishonest as to utter them. Propaganda used to manipulate the public. No matter how stupid, they all spit it out.

NewsMax even put out a poll saying the Fox News reported that Trump had a very low approval percentage. NewsMax wanted to prove them wrong. They’re fighting each other!

No one knows how many families have been separated or how many children have been sent to God-knows-where, or trafficked. Yes, who in this administration would have a problem with that, given how the Federal Bureau of Investigation, once legendary, has worked overtime scrubbing and redacting the material in the so-called “Epstein Files?”

It’s been claimed that the redactions are to conceal the names of victims, and I hope it’s true, but wait! If our military shoots people clinging to a wrecked boat, is it so farfetched to think that the Feds would cook the books to exonerate Trump?

You know what war crimes and crimes against humanity look like. You know what “ethnic cleansing” looks like. Now comes my question:

Are you really supportive of this kind of inhumanity? Or do you condemn these things?

The answer, that’s for you. It isn’t for me. Because if this goes on, it will get worse. I saw the video of the boat. It looked like a small open boat to me, and watching it explode sickened me. You want more? Or are you willing to stand for what’s right, risking your life to speak against evil?

And one more question. If you are in any branch of the military of the United States, and you receive an order to do something you know is illegal, how will you respond?

How will history, and God, judge you? You can’t get away. Everyone will know. Is “I was just following orders” a good enough excuse, like most Wermacht, Luftwaffe, and Kriegsmarine claimed after VE Day? Right up to the minute they were imprisoned or executed?

It’s up to you.

Backslide

It was the pain. It comes and goes, but when it’s at its worst, it can stay for days and nearly paralyze me. It’s head to toes. The doctor called it fibromyalgia, which on top of squashed discs and other problems is horrible. Almost unendurable.

Now, I ain’t no candy-ass, but when a man has so much piled on him at once, it’s gonna make him cry like one.

I went to the liquor store. I didn’t have much money and I didn’t want a fifth anyway, so I bought some Johnnie Walker red minis.

For the bottom shelf scotches, it did the trick. It went down smoothly, had a nice effect on the pain, and now…

Now I’m right back where I was in 2003. This morning I had a scotch and got no buzz. It just got me to a maintenance level to where I don’t fear the DTs and I’m not walking like a zombie.

When I saw my family for dinner on Monday, I didn’t say anything. There’s nothing they can do. I ordered a scotch neat, and fell in love with Dewar’s. When I had downed it, I pulled a Johnnie Walker red mini from my jacket, opened it and poured it into the glass. Nobody raised an eyebrow, and I’m glad. It was such a happy time, the best I’ve had in years.

But I can’t be silent any longer.

Being a recovering alcoholic is not an excuse to have even one drink. Recovering alcoholics can’t drink, not ever. Not socially, not to medicate pain. Not for any reason.

I knew better. But I thought I could control it. I can’t.

Breaking off now will be difficult because that next drink is all I can think about.

I think it was last night but I’m not sure. I saw a lizard the size of a person on my bathroom floor. That ain’t good. That’s something you go to the hospital for, but I can’t afford certain people finding out. With sips from minis until withdrawal doesn’t happen, I can get back to being in recovery.

I’m not really here today writing about myself so much as I am to you.

No matter what pain you suffer, mixing alcohol with any prescription drug is extremely dangerous. You can die that way. And avoid all street drugs. Seek help instead, and I know our health system is a shambles, but keep trying for the right clinic, doctor or program. Your life is important. We’re stronger with you than without you. You’re awesome and I hope you’ll be around for a long time.

It’s 12:42 here. I’ve already had strong coffee, Alka-Seltzer and Tylenol. I’ll drink another glass of water too.

Please be good to yourself. You deserve it. God is always ready to help those who call on Him.

Make that call.

And don’t let the political garbage get to you. Everything is going to be okay. Just ask Paramount and Disney.

I never had Disney but I did cancel Paramount Plus and I don’t miss it.

If you were looking forward to the exclusive Tony and Ziva, don’t let that stop you. It’s a lousy show hurried into production and it shows.

Do whatever you can to let the mega corporations know you don’t think they’re worth your money, participate in demonstrations, or anything else you can do. But don’t let the corporate news take you for a ride through any damned wonderland. Take care of your mental and physical health and you’ll be fine.

The Catholic Church Conspiracy

I toured the Vatican.

But it is smaller than I had pictured. The guide (s) took us to different places and threw enough monologues at us that I grew very sleepy.

Mostly it was rooms, different ones where sections were defined by those velvet ropes on brass stands. Some woman I couldn’t see kept interrupting the guides to ask leading questions about this or that. She had her own instructional monologues. One man (Drink Coke Zero) who smoked (Camel) unfiltered cigarettes with us smokers on a break in a small courtyard (Buy Blue Bunny Ice Cream) had a good voice for his section of the tour and once when I sleepily went from one section to another and left my pack of (Camel Filtered Cigarettes) at the table, he silently went behind me to the next section of the tour and made sure I got them back. He smiled solicitously and made me sick.

The tour of the Sistine Chapel was something I looked forward to (“Anticipation” by Carly Simon plays over a ketchup commercial) and it was taking forever. We were warned in advance that no smoking was allowed and I’m thinking “No shit, lady, us smokers ain’t allowed to smoke nowhere anymore,” because people choke and cough for miles away and I swear you can hear them, or, if they see you light up, they whine, “Oh no, I’m allergic to cigarette smoke,” and you look and they’re all the same, morbidly obese women with suicide blonde hair, yoga pants and a fucked-up attitude…

We were also not to carry any cell phones (Get the new Samsung 360 for only 2,300 dollars and a fifty-five-year contract while this sale lasts), paper clips (Office Depot) or pens (Paper Mate Wright Brothers Pens available in Eckerd’s, Dart Drugs, Read’s Drug Store and Montgomery Ward) and oh jeez shut up already. What did they think we were gonna do, graffiti Michaelangelo’s shit? Make paint chips fall off the walls with Wi-Fi signals? Steal panels by paper-clipping them inside our coats?

The subject of some obscure dead dude who predicted all the names of the popes ending with Francis came up. The theories that Pope Leo XIV is the last one and the third prophecy of Fatima were being discussed at sleep-inducing length. I thought, this was supposed to be a tour.

Instead I was getting half-history, half-conspiracy theories poured straight into my brain by an opening in my skull I never even knew was there ((Ask your doctor if Ketamine is right for you)).

But (((Get Boar’s Head deli meats!))) whatever I was hearing, it seemed like I could never see the speaker. Their voices were always behind me. That just didn’t seem right.

Then, in a section marked off with large white ribbons or crepe paper (Party City has everything you need for your next indoctrination) hundreds of school children on some sick field trip were filling steel fold-up chairs in front of us. One youth was carrying an Igloo container full of grape (Yeah, Kool-Aid’s here, bringing you cheer) drink. He offered a cup to a kid who did that weird punk shrug in defiance. I decided I hate kids on the spot. Rebellious wastrels with a diminished respect for free speech who then turn out to spout the worst, most mindless crap you ever heard because they watch Tik Tok all day and eat shrooms (Fresh Portabello mushrooms at your neighborhood Giant, only 10.99 a pound!) or sneak (Pabst Blue Ribbon Beer) into their bedrooms and brag in school the next day that they drank a six pack last night even though one can of warm hick beer had them puking for an hour. They’re stupid. They’re limpets mom will never see move out.

Sometimes things don’t work out. The tour ended without the Sistine Chapel.

By then I was so weary that all I wanted was a smoke (Come to where the flavor is. Come to Marlboro Country!) and some sleep.

I did, however, find myself in a small connecting corridor looking for the Men’s room. I had to go.

Now, I don’t care for conspiracy theories, which is why I lampooned the really sick ones about The Brady Bunch and Gilligan’s Island, so if you want, you can read those. Conspiracy theories are a waste of time because they’re usually absurd and paranoid in nature, and can neither be proved nor disproved because people don’t listen to the truth, they’d prefer a lie any day.

Faked “evidence” is all over the place on the Internet and stacks at libraries, if there are any of those left.

The recent flood of conspiracy theories including the resurgence of the Apollo moon landings make me sick. Look, if you don’t believe they happened then that’s your decision. Remember, though, it’s a choice.

And remember that we have all chosen to believe lies before. Sometimes, we just didn’t know. But sometimes we were staring straight down the throat of the truth, and along came some Fox TV special about mysterious black boxes in cars that made them crash or lead police into high-speed chases. And of course, the one about Stanley Kubrick faking the moon landings with NASA.

I’m not going to bother with that crap. If you want to believe that hundreds of people kept those a secret, that nobody talked, goody. But it is truly stupid.

And another thing.

While subliminal advertising may have or maybe just once been rumored to exist and work, and could even be in use today, there’s no reason to believe it does work, or is necessary at all, when real commercial ads have you craving KFC at two in the morning when nothing is open and the only KFC you know of is 75 miles away.

Oh, and the Vatican tour?

About that: I don’t care about the archive rumors. I don’t care for Dan Brown’s novels. I don’t care about Catholic-Nazi collaboration in WW 2. I don’t care if the church made a deal with the Devil in Hell himself, if, in the end, it saved innocent lives, or even if it didn’t but was intended to, then I at least can understand that. Whether you or I approve makes no difference; it’s done. Long ago, done and over.

I think the Catholic Church does make one mistake, though.

In the grand trappings of the priests, bishops, cardinals and the Pope, there’s nothing holy. They’re just men, and Jesus never said for his disciples to stand out like that. He did pronounce words to the Pharisees, describing them as whitewashed on the outside but on the inside being full of dead men’s bones. That’s a pretty big deal.

His ministry was humble. Simple. He offered hope in a land where little was to be found under Rome’s hobnailed boots. He gave us all the promise that faith would be rewarded to those who believe and hold out to the end. But of gold and silver candlesticks, paintings and painted ceilings and walls with images, he would repeat that none of it was holy, none of it would get anyone into Heaven, and that works mean nothing next to faith.

Trappings of wealth or status are horrifying to me and that’s why I loved Francis. He didn’t live in Vatican City or wear the ridiculous Halloween costume (Party City has all your cosplay and Halloween party needs!) of tradition.

My tour of The Vatican was a miserable one. Maybe.

Or maybe I awoke at 03:47, accidentally ingested two Blue Bunny Ice cream sandwiches, chased them with a cup of Columbian brew, and turned on a documentary about the prophecy of the popes, put my headphones on and fell back asleep, forgetting about auto play and sleeping listlessly through programs about the Vatican, Nostradamus, and Catholic Church conspiracy theories.

No wonder the voices sounded like they were behind me.

So the next time you think you have it bad, just remember, you’ll sleep better with the TV off.

In fact, just unplug the bloody thing.

Have a wonderful weekend. I won’t. Because maybe subliminal advertising is real (I smoke Marlboro cigarettes, not Camels. But I do have the impulse to go to Party City, buy a Rambo costume, and hunt wild boars with a knife. And eat their heads.

Sure is a good thing ain’t no boar around here!

The nerve of this mutt.

I have a headache (Get Extra Strength Tylenol).

You love fortune cookies. You want to buy a whole case right now. You want to share them with all of your friends.

You do.

A Nice Cup of Tea

Sometimes the best medicine is just a nice cup of Earl Grey

TEA TIME

I’ve had an off-kilter, wonky kind of day. Oh, I managed to get my laundry done and folded, and put away. But little else.

That last bit is usually a tall order. By the end of the folding process, this old man is ready to cry with the back pain.

Somehow I did it. Throw me a parade! Name a holiday after me! Or better yet, give me some money.

Waking up after a nap that made the timing perfect for missing a walk to the store for coffee and milk made tea this night’s drink. It is for the best.

It’s fine. Gives me some alone time with Earl and that’s not a thing to take lightly. But please, come in, have a cuppa, and let us talk.

Americans, that is to say, here in the United States, we never fail to undervalue tea, its healing powers, its seductive flavor and the inner warmth it gives, ensuring that you must have one more cup.

Being a child of English, Welsh, Irish, Scottish, Swedish and Danish ancestry, I suspect it runs in my blood: coffee and cold soft drinks are fine, good Scotch or Irish whiskey being a nice treat on the blue moon or something like that, but tea is the one thing we all have in common. Perhaps we agree on little else, but every region has a tea of preference or one which it can grow.

I do not favor green tea, Darjeeling, or Ceylon tea, but any will do in a pinch. Herbal teas are another matter.

I have a pot with a nice infuser. After adding 4 teaspoons of leaf tea (because tea dust is what’s swept up from the floor and put into tea bags which won’t complement the flavor), I add water from the kettle, put the tea towel over it and let it steep for five minutes. And Earl Grey is ready to enjoy. When hurting, or feeling a bit pensive, it’s best enjoyed in solitude. But sharing it with a friend is very easy to do and the conversation should be interesting. That’s why you’re here. Welcome!

It’s a horror to add milk to tea, but of them all, this is the worst choice for milk and sugar. A drop of lemon, and a half teaspoon of sugar is as far as I’ll go. Most of the time, Earl Grey needs no additive, but it’s your cup of tea, do what you like best. Because life is too short not to.

It’s also fun to try new things, and trust me, Lipton tea isn’t one of them. I favor two brands of leaf tea: Taylors of Harrogate and Twinings. Tea is the one thing the English always got right, and Yanks screwed up. The British seem to feel that all we do with tea is throw it into harbors. But at least they think we uncrate it first, thus giving striped bass a caffeine high.

I briefly mentioned King Henry VIII in a recent post. What a turd he was, yes? To avoid scandalous relationships, he broke with the Catholic Church and created what became protestant churches of England. He had no idea what he was doing with and to religion, and he knew less of women, and cared even less. What a dick.

But the English are still a fine, proud people. That Royal thing though, is that really necessary? It seems that all they ever to is engage in drama and in-family subterfuge, and mentioning Diana’s name gets you scowled at depending how you use it. Call her out as a whore, or praise her; one will get you your ass whipped and the other might get you a drink at the pub. Hope you like warm ale, good luck and cheery-o.

I’m serious. It’s a very divisive subject and if I found any link at all to British royalty in my family tree, I’d keep my mouth shut about it. I’d rather find the Lestranges in there. Finding Bellatrix would be more reason to brag than any royal.

I’m not taking shots here. Any country you hail from is home, always will be, and it’s in your blood. Take pride from that.

But that doesn’t mean much to other people. If you tell someone a Duke of Avondale was a great great great….cousin, you’re going to get a blank stare in return. I’m sorry, but that’s life.

And as I’ve said, life is short. Let’s enjoy what little we can, shall we?

THE CHRISTMAS CURSE

At this time of year, like Coleridge’s Ancient Mariner, I’m doomed to tell anyone who will pay heed about how short life really is.

We always have a way of thinking, that could never happen to me, but this is folly. Because yes, it can. And if it does, you’ll be really fucked-up for the rest of your life.

On Christmas Eve, 1994, I was preparing to spend my first Christmas away from my family. My wife kicked me out that spring and I couldn’t find any work except for delivering pizza. It isn’t glamorous in the least. It’s humiliating. You get to see people you hope will never order a pizza pie again. Once I was invited in where adults were all wearing underwear. Long underwear.

I don’t know how, or why, but this was creepy to the point where even the guy on Elton Street who answered the door in his robe would seem normal afterward. They gave me the flying shits, and I stood in the doorway, on the stoop, and even if they’d aimed a cannon at me, I was not going in there. I don’t even know what I was seeing. It was like something out of the movie Deliverance where the guy looks through a door and sees an old woman knitting beside an obvious, horrid example of inbred offspring. There was something I could feel, something unnatural, evil and hungry. The hungry part scared me the most. Fuck you, I’m not coming one step inside your sleazy abode.

On Christmas Eve we closed early, about sunset or a little after. I waited around for a while. Killing time, because I had an eye infection in one eye. It kept crusting over with white like the Pillsbury dough boy had swept in and taken a shit on my eye. I needed it treated. Having no doctor, I’d go to the hospital and I figured around 23:00 was good, because what hospital is crowded at that time on the night before Christmas?

I figured wrong. The waiting room was full, standing room only. I checked in and was advised it might take some time. On this frigid night, the darkness seemed peculiar for the parking lot of a major hospital’s ER.

I went further into the darkness to smoke, wary of security seeing me. I lit a cigarette and jumped a mile when a voice, soft, friendly, timid, asked for a light.

Even in darkness, he was darker. His face seemed highlighted by age, the ravages of a hard life and battles. Lots of them.

He lit his smoke. What a tragic man he was. In Baltimore, the streets were cruel even then. That they’re more so now puts me in a bad place.

He was trying to get committed. Back then, as now, it’s not so easy. He told me how he’d had a good job, a wife and children.

Two cars, a house and a boat. Everything a guy could want.

Until one say when his wife and children were killed in a traffic accident. He went in the bottle,  and who can judge him? I never did. From there it must have gone quickly. He lost the boat. Then the job. Then the remaining car and finally the house. He had nowhere to go. He attacked when they tried to evict him. “Been in the bottle ever since,” he said. His voice held a sad quality until he said, “I just want my kids back.”

That line is always audible in my memory. It was so bleak, so full of despair that I wanted to hug him, but back then, it wasn’t done. Such a backward, hung up society, the United States.

What he said taught me a lesson. A big one, and since I had no money for gifts I had not planned on visiting my children for Christmas. Showing up empty-handed would hurt them and kill me inside. But my lesson had been delivered and I never forgot it. My daughter said on the phone next morning, “It’s okay, daddy, your gift can be that you love us.” And I went, and we had a nice visit. And I truly wish the story ended there. But happy endings are for fairy tales and massage parlors only. It turned out that my lesson was prophetic. My children are dead.

Yes, and my daughter left three children behind. She drowned on 4 July, 2012. My son and I grieved, but he was unable to shake his grief, or the burden put on him by his step-father that Elizabeth should have lived and he should have died. His step-father did a lot of damage and for years I wanted to kill him. He does not know to this day how many times he was close to death.

Christmas should be thought of as the time when people are kind, giving, sharing, and, if you are a Christian, of birth.

It is not like that for me. Nor will it ever be again. I think of heartbreak and death.

Christmas Day, 2017 was the last time I saw my son. He had taken something laced with fentanyl twice and both times ceased breathing, both times winding up in the CCU. The second time, I knew I was going to lose him. He felt a deep hunger for the drug. Since it basically killed him twice, I couldn’t understand what he’d gotten out of it. The doctor told him his liver and kidney functions were off. He either knew what that meant or didn’t. It does not matter. By Valentine’s Day 2018, he took his last dose of street Fenny and went off to meet his maker, taking whatever Elizabeth had left of my heart behind with him. My heart is an open wound. I’ve never fully allowed myself to grieve, because crying sucks. It fills my sinuses and gives me a headache. And always, always, there’s more and I’m not going to have more. I’m sick of it. I bear my burden the best I can. But I often tell others about it. I warn them that the pain of loss never ends.

But only once a year do I pass on the story of that poor, broken man who taught me a great lesson, giving me — giving us three — many years of love, adventure and memories together.

I cannot pass on this curse. It is mine to bear. To tell of a man whose battered soul got through my selfish and bitter, vain self and taught me to hold my family close.

What I am offering you is a simple warning. As your friend, because we’ve had tea together.

You must keep your loved ones safe. Give them the things they need. Show your love always, never being afraid of “wearing your heart on your sleeve”, because those who criticize you for it will never understand. Pity them. Pass on what you have learned here. Take nothing for granted. Because life isn’t fair, it harbors Death, a predator always on the prowl.

And know that no matter who you are or where you are, you are always welcome here for a nice cup of tea and a good chat. Remember: we are friends.

Rise of the Barbarians, Downfall of Humanity

Caution: the following post contains mature and disturbing subject matter and may trigger certain individuals. Please proceed with care.

Kings County Hospital

Brooklyn, NY

July 31, 1977

People thought it was safe. He had never struck in Brooklyn.

But it wasn’t safe.

The nurse can’t exactly describe what she felt that night. She recalls reporters snapping pictures of the victim being taken from the ambulance and feeling anger. She looks back and knows they had scanners or police radios, and that’s how they knew where to be. But that doesn’t help. The pictures taken still exist, and that’s sickening.

The nurse had heard that the victims were coming in: the .44 Caliber Killer was feared to have struck again.

Two victims, one male, one female, both 20-years-old, had head wounds. The emergency room went into overdrive; the trauma center geared up.

The nurse knew the young woman was going to die. Two huge slugs through the brain. The shock caused one eye to become partially extruded. The slugs had wrought profound damage, easily visible: severe blood loss and swelling, or edema. The nurse was looking at a corpse with its heart still beating.

No matter what, the surgeons tried to save her. Even when it won’t work, they try. The only exception to the head wound rule comes after a firefight. Medics in the field mark the casualty “expectant” and handle as well as medevac those who can be saved first. It sounds cold, but lives get saved, the ones who can be saved, as opposed to sacrificing one for a soldier who is basically already gone. Forget pulse and respiration; they stopped being who they were when the round from an AK-47 turned their brain into gray bits mixed with blood.

But for 36 hours, doctors worked on the woman. She was in ICU and the OR several times.

The young nurse went home and told her mother it wasn’t good. To this day she knew that she had worked on a dying woman. The time finally came for doctors to call time of death: 17:22 EDT.

The couple, Stacy Moskowitz and Robert Violante, had been parked in a Brooklyn lover’s lane. It was their first date. Those situations were how the .44 Caliber Killer always struck. Couples parked, bothering no one, hearts full of the pangs of love. And now he had done so in Brooklyn.

Between the summers of 1976 and 1977, but actually beginning in late 1975, the killer had terrorized all of New York City. Police were taunted by letters from him and by August 1977, he knew exactly where to go to avoid a 300-man task force and their dragnet. And he had just targeted his first blonde-haired woman. Not his M.O., but it shows that he intended to keep killing. He was never going to stop.

They turned out to be the final victims of serial killer David Berkowitz, a k.a. the .44 Caliber Killer. Best known as: Son of Sam.

He was captured by police a short time later and said, as if it meant nothing, “Well, you got me.”

He was confined to Kings County Hospital for psychiatric observation. The Nurse was there when they brought him in. She was watching through the glass, concealed but able to see and hear.

Her first sight of him made her blood run cold. What she cannot forget is the smirk he wore on his face: here was pure evil encased in a human body. He was deemed competent to stand trial three times. He was tried, convicted of second degree murder and attempted second degree murder. He pleaded guilty. The sentence: 25 to life.

The smirking Son of Sam

He did time in Attica and Sing Sing.

He survived a murder attempt. Then he became an evangelical Christian. He cannot use a computer but other evangelicals maintain a website for him. Why, I don’t know. He’s been the subject of documentaries and has been allowed interviews. He gets no royalties but has published. He is not being punished. He is being coddled.

The injustice of it sickens me.

In Baltimore there’s a history of prosecutors refusing to try violent perpetrators. Guns are an even bigger problem now than ever. Street violence is a plague, an epidemic. There’s little you or I can do about it. Until mayors and prosecutors do their jobs, the police won’t do theirs. And when things are that bad, chaos and death rule every day.

While serial-and-mass murderers get headlines decades after either being killed, caught or escaping, it is the everyman or everywoman most at risk from gun crimes. And we do nothing but make videos, watch the news while we eat dinner and we don’t even belch.

I used to see very graphic footage on local news channels. The anchors would warn that it could be disturbing. Instead it numbed a nation of barbarians. People didn’t care.

***

The Rise of the Barbarians did not begin with the Son of Sam. Nor with the “Manson Family”. It cannot be pinned to any date, any place. Certainly not with any one person. We can trace certain things through Ancestry and written history, but we can only go so far with either. All we can do is pin certain places to certain times and notable people.

When Europe first began sending immigrants to “America”, they were not sending their best people. They were sending rapists and murderers. The settlement of an already occupied land turned the very soil red with blood. The world has never been the same.

Being aware of Ancient Greece and Egypt, Babylon, Assyria and Asian nations, mostly loosely associated with allies but always at war, we cannot claim that North America is the beginning of Barbarians. But we certainly have followed their path. I have roots in Belgium, Germany, England, Wales, Scotland and Ireland. There were ancestors on the Maflower. Daniel Boone was my 6th great uncle. Some later fought for both sides in the Civil War. Some fought in just about every war the United States has waged. Relatives fought the British in the Revolutionary War while others fought in red coats. Same as the War of 1812. None of this makes any sense to me. It should not make any sense to anyone.

History is not pretty. While videos like documentaries are sometimes good, most are laden with traps like conspiracy theories and outright misinformation.

But never in history have we been more barbaric than we are right now. You can try to point to something particular in history; an event that changed everything, like August 6, 1945, the single bomb that shook the world. You’d have a valid point. But not the only one. You can argue, but then you would be using a narrow view. History does not tolerate that.

No one really knows who developed the first war ships. By the time of the Peloponnesian War, the Athenians had a fearsome fleet. Sparta may have won, but the seas ran red. It was costly. Egypt fought many wars and conquered part of the western Middle East. By the time of the reign of Cleopatra, the pyramids were already ruins. Rome invaded and the once mighty Egypt was occupied, as had been Greece. Rome, like Egypt and Greece, inherited and improved weapons and war tactics. To see legions marching toward you was to know true fear. The Spanish decimated Central America. Warfare was constantly being refined and improved upon. Killing was what fed the people.

By the middle ages armor and weapons had not progressed much. Swords, spears, halberds, shields and bows had been strengthened and catapults refined as trebuchets which when aligned in groups were terrifying. The castle became obsolete, but Alexander the Great had already defeated many fixed fortifications with siege towers. Now, armies could lay waste from a distance. That’s as far as the progress went. Until gunpowder.

It wasn’t until World War I that true mass butchery with artillery, machine guns, and mustard gas was possible. Death by the numbers. Shelling drove men mad. The old saying “Never light three on a match” was said because by the time three cigarettes were lit, nighttime snipers had acquired a target. Either rifle or machine gun fire would tear through them and anyone close.

The saying became a superstition popularized just after the war ended. Some believe it came from World War Two but the superstition was already well known.

The bloody war taught nobody anything. The Treaty of Versailles was so hard on Germany that Hitler took it as an excuse to build the military in violation of it. Every part of that Treaty was adhered to, like dead tonnage in naval vessels, by the west. Not Germany. The slow speeds and thin armor of new ships off the line and the restriction that caused obsolete ships to remain in service, not to mention aircraft, made Pearl Harbor possible. It also indirectly led to unnecessary casualties by the Allies in the first years of the war in Europe and the Pacific.

Even by the Battle of Midway, torpedo bombers, the TBD-1 Devastator, were shot out of the sky. They were slow, easy targets. Even if one got through the screen of Japanese fighter planes and anti-aircraft fire, the torpedoes rarely even exploded.

So the Allies learned very quickly to adapt. By war’s end, the United States had the most fearsome navy the world had ever seen. So many fast carriers were without a job that they were mothballed. Heavy carriers were still being scrapped in the 1990s. I actually saw the mighty USS Bunker Hill being taken apart. Every day, the hulk got smaller until I could not even see it. She was a big part of the war in the Pacific. She was also my favorite.

But the atomic age rendered her useless.

That doesn’t mean we are any less barbaric. Now we have huge carriers able to launch planes that can refuel in the air and fire missiles with a range of miles or bomb a target with incredible precision. Helicopter rescuers are able to save pilots who had to eject over water. In World War Two and Korea that was rare.

***

It is a clear picture of barbarism that as Russians pulled back to Kyiv, they left evidence behind that shocked the world. Bodies of women and children and non-combatants lay in the streets. Some shot, others garotted, some strangled by bare hands. I don’t need to read that women were raped first. I know.

Russia’s attack and invasion of Ukraine has been condemned around the world. But the people of Ukraine fight alone. Sanctions against Russia are a pitiful response and everyone believes that anything more will start World War Three. It may. Reports have it that Putin is isolated, his leaders afraid to tell him anything. That he is also unstable.

No matter how that war ends, it won’t be the last. No matter how we restrict gun sales, the killing will not stop. Police are afraid to do their jobs. They walk a beat or get out of a cruiser and things are thrown at them. Cell phone cameras do not show provocation but instead the users wait desperately to catch them doing anything wrong. Some neighborhoods can’t get an emergency response because the police are targets and can’t go in without lots of backup. The news will not report this. Yet it happens to be more true every day. If I were 18, the last choice I would make for a career is law enforcement.

Law and order are being taken from us. Violence rules the streets, with gangs everywhere. Republicans don’t prosecute their own.

Otherwise, people treat each other with diminishing respect. We’ve become hardened; numb and suspicious.

When the Roman Empire used the noun “barbarians” it simply meant people other than Roman citizens. Today it means people who are not civilized or are evil. People like Son of Sam. The Sandy Hook shooter. The Parkland shooter. The Vegas sniper.

People like evangelical, rich preachers are evil. They lead the masses to falsely believe that tithing will prompt God to help them get rich. It won’t; you have to be a sociopathic scammer for that. Murders, wars and thievery in God’s name is an abomination. Period.

We are killers, pedophiles and rapists, drug dealers and pimps, pirates, scammers, liars; barbarians.

Imagine breaking a bone and not having insurance, or inadequate plans. The bills will bury you. Now picture needing surgery to pin bones back together. You’re going to be hounded by nasty phone calls and bills that keep on coming. Then they ruin your credit score.

That’s not even the worst of it. Imagine now that you’re sent home without a prescription for pain, that the doctor tells you to take Advil. It takes 8 weeks, sometimes longer, for a break to mend. That’s if you’re not diabetic. Then who knows when it will stop hurting. Imagine watching a relative suffering from cancer with no narcotics. They’re going to die and the doctor won’t prescribe a pain killer because “those are addictive“!

You ever heard a gunshot victim screaming in pain? Once you do, you will never forget it. Ever seen someone gut-shot, their intestines all over the ground? If they’re lucky they pass out. Multiple surgeries follow, a colostomy, perhaps permanent. Always in pain. How about a spinal injury? Even a compressed disk is excruciating and no bones are even broken. Your every move hurts. They send you home with muscle relaxers so weak that you can’t feel any relief and that does not even treat the real problem.

The “opiod crisis” never existed. People who overdosed mixed meds or also drank died. It wasn’t suicide. It was accidental most of the time; pain can be so intense that one can forget a dose was taken or else be desperate.

The main advantage of opiates for pain is that if you are in very severe pain, taking it on schedule can prevent it from getting too intense. Once it’s at that point, your medicine isn’t as effective. But enough about that. Let’s talk progressive and liberal politicians. While arguing for better Healthcare they bitched about opiates. You see the problem? I contacted my representative. I’ve called out politicians and activists on Twitter. Friends have shared the link to my petition on Facebook and Instagram. It is not going well. My tweet about losing my son went to 50,800 likes, and now comments are being deleted. I get more likes every day, more people share horror stories and no one I’ve tagged has even bothered to respond. Not even activists. The likes topped off at 50.8k likes. I don’t think Twitter likes it at all. I took attention away from the war, the pandemic and Will Smith.

But this part of our existence is the final proof. We are barbarians. We’re going backwards and nobody notices. They believe politicians and documentaries over science and human rights. In an age when we can treat pain we are refused treatment.

If that surprises you, look at the shameful way children are abused and neglected with abusers rarely being held accountable.

Doctor Pedo

A pediatrician in Delaware used to insist that infants and toddlers be seen without the parents present. He was raping them. How any parent ever allowed this unsupervised doctor to treat their children is beyond me but he wasn’t questioned and it went on for a long time. One father said, “I was in the waiting room reading People Magazine while he was raping my daughter.” He lamented that he wasn’t much of a father.

I have to agree with him there. Doctor Earl Bradley was not a child molester. He was a serial child rapist. I’m going to give you a link. But be warned: it is graphic, horrible and will trigger people.

Dr. Earl Bradley sentenced to life without parole

You see a picture of a man whose looks betray the monster within. Filthy, disheveled, offensive.

I use this article after reading and being much more than triggered. But take note here, and make no mistake: other doctors knew. They said nothing to authorities and joked about him at cocktail parties. They made jokes! The first detective who worked a case involving him was told by the Attorney General that he couldn’t do anything. Investigation stopped there. The rapes continued while victims’ parents tried to warn others away. They were called liars and nuts. Once you read how he got caught and convicted, you will come away wondering how often this happens. The article claims child abuse by doctors is rare. Well, it isn’t. The victims are traumatized and cannot articulate what happened. Sex abuse and rape is more common to adults. So they claim. I contend that nobody can know that for certain and the claim is invalid. This animal got away with his crimes for years.

The one thing you must take from this is who the victims are, and the list of more potential victims keeps growing. In Florida, banning any mention in schools about the LGBTQ community is a setting for death. It means nutty anti-LGBTQ haters can declare open season amongst themselves. In Ohio, as Ohio does, the same law is being taken up. In Oklahoma all abortions are now illegal, with no exceptions save for the mother’s life being in danger. Doctors can get ten years, pay a 100,000 dollar fine and lose their medical license. Oklahoma is a poor state. Most red states are. If a woman is raped she can’t even get a morning after pill. The poor cannot travel out of state and still afford medical procedures. If you agree that we are a nation of barbarians, stand by. Much worse will follow. The hatred of women is out of its cage. It can’t be reined in. Not that there really was a cage; now though, it’s going to be everywhere, more open and much more lethal.

You see how Republicans stick together no matter what. You see that they want a swastika flying at the White House. You see how doctors cover for each other. They will not counter another doctor’s refusal to give pain meds to those who clearly need it. They tell you “your pain is all in your mind” and they can’t get rid of your file fast enough and move on to someone else. Cookie cutter healthcare with sadism from top to bottom.

You can say whatever you like. When the time comes, and it’s your turn to hurt, what will you do? Pain brings the toughest and most stubborn to their knees in tears. I’ve seen it.

***

The nurse remembers one more thing from the night Stacy Moskowitz was brought to Kings County Hospital. The mother.

Mrs. Moskowitz was heartbreaking to see. The nurse will never forget the wailing and plaintive words she screamed. She was the last true victim of Son of Sam. She never recovered.

I want to fight for women’s rights. For LGBTQ rights and protection. But I had to start somewhere. One thing at a time. So my petition at change.org is for doctors to treat pain properly. To be a patient and expect to be treated properly. Many can be saved. Pain or suicide is a sadistic choice to give anyone. We need the people to rejoin society and we have no right keeping them from it.

Sign this, and give me–give us–hope.

https://chng.it/2zjLYVYm

Cuomo Wouldn’t. Hochul Did. Drug Addiction In New York Need Not Be A Death Sentence Ever Again

First came the “Let’s get rid of prior authorization for opiod treatment” which Governor Cuomo of New York signed, but vetoed for Medicaid enrollees. Which of course made the bill useless.

That was 2019. And even if one argues that it doesn’t count because it was pre-pandemic, that argument presumes that Medicaid clients don’t matter. He justified the veto because of the cost. Over the next two years, who here wants to say that any one of the overdose deaths didn’t matter?

Put directly, when was it ever justifiable to let people die because keeping them alive was too expensive? We don’t even do that to prisoners on Death Row. They’re fed. They’re treated. The cost? I don’t know. We do it anyway.

Oh, I know people have always justified such things as letting the poor die even when it’spossibleto save them. But how justifiable were they? Even Ghengis Kahn saw no honor or practicality in slaughter; as he approached a villa, all it had to do was surrender, and mostly the people would be spared. If Khan was a bloody conqueror and yet spared lives, why do we, calling ourselves so much more civilized, condemn so many?

Again, those who were on Medicaid were not valued as much as the cost of a voluntary program with delays for treatment removed.

I know the rehab program is keyed to keeping people hooked on methadone. Let’s change one thing at a time. Even having a user safely on methadone is better than having them overdose and end up in a coma in the Emergency Room. Or needing to be buried by the city or state because there’s no next-of-kin who can or will do it.

The end game–the goal– of every program should be Suboxone treatment: in the link are busted myths laid out plainly by the esteemed Harvard Medical School. Pay close attention to these myths and the realities which contradict them.

Opiate addicts and others increased in number during the pandemic, and so did overdose statistics. The numbers in any statistic like this are people. Human beings who still have rights, still have potential, still have gifts that we can all benefit from. Cuomo put money above their humanity, especially people of color, who need treatment to be immediate, with no time lag. That is unacceptable and inhumane, and makes me pretty certain that race was a consideration he couldn’t have possibly missed. Who’s expendable?

No one is.

And until we place every human life on a value scale that’s equal to each other and worth more than money, we cannot hope to survive as a species. We don’t live in Khan’s world.

We live in a much more dangerous one.